Listening to Your Psyche
The psyche. The gateway between you and your possibilities. I know mine. Intimately. It is no more unreal than the very heart that beats now within my chest. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn’t...
View ArticleLiking, Wanting, and Needing
Do you want to know one (I say “one” quite intentionally, as there are many) of the problems with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs? The literal interpretation. For example, the security of body. Yes, we are...
View ArticleDiscovering My Vagina Through the Senses
If ever there was a post, I circled, this one would be it. I see myself, walking around the issue, crouching down to take a more in-depth look – evaluating from all angles. Words. I have had trouble...
View ArticlePain. I Want It.
I have been traveling, via the written word, with historian Edward Shorter, exploring the long history of sadomasochism. I am not a lover of pain, nor do I like to inflict it. Want to see me whimper?...
View ArticleLife’s Domains
Life’s domains. Career…parent…spouse…recreation…education… the list of potentials is endless. I see slavery as a life domain. I have accepted my role, as a slave–owned by another, in the same way I...
View ArticleRaw Femininity
Last night, while talking with Master, I told Him that I believe I will write a book about the art of slavery… just as soon as I figure it out. The more I learn about slavery, the more I incorporate it...
View ArticleFighting for Me
I wrote about lizards this morning. Lizards, and irrational fears. I wrote about that just in case some of you didn’t want to read about sex every day. I mean, seriously, do you guys want to read about...
View ArticleDoing Versus Being
I have a friend. A best friend. We see each other often. She is happily married and I know her husband, as well. From time to time, I give her and her husband some “test assignments”. I ask them to try...
View ArticleShouting Out Some LGBT Love
I teach. I’ve been teaching for fifteen years. Teaching takes precious time away from my private clinic work. The pay isn’t great but the pay-off is. I deeply believe in what I teach and I am willing...
View ArticleSexual Intelligence
I am a big fan of Dr. Marty Klein’s work. I had the pleasure of attending several of his workshops, have read his books, and he was instrumental in helping me get started on my own doctoral project. He...
View ArticleApparently, I’m a Sub
Yesterday, I was at my local dungeon for their Saturday workshop (I try to attend as many as I can – you can find information about the workshops they offer HERE ). The topic at hand was High Protocol...
View ArticleAm I Good Enough?
I have shared many times about my particular personality type – I like to do things well and all the way. It’s both a curse and a blessing. I am hard on myself. I have high expectations and once I...
View ArticleTraditional Versus Post-Modern
Master and I had a discussion tonight about traditional versus post-modern views of D/s (M/s) practitioners. Master is a traditionalist. Conservative. Strong. Always in control over what He says and...
View ArticleTaking the Judgment Out of Introspection
As human beings, we are introspective. It simply can’t be avoided. Call it, part of the human condition. Introspection is something that follows awareness. Awareness, without introspection, is neutral....
View ArticleSubmissive Beauty: Your Physical Health
I received an awesome email asking me about my past weight loss. How did I do it? Why motivated me to do it? I happen to think both are two great questions – especially for submissives. Why? Maybe it’s...
View ArticleMasochist: Smart and Beautiful
Before identifying as a D/s practitioner, the term masochism summoned up concrete words and thoughts – such as pain and trauma – any gratification experienced during pain was psychopathological in...
View ArticleParalysis of Analysis
Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement. However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of...
View ArticleIf I Identify as Submissive, Does that Mean I’m Kinky?
I’m just going to throw it right on out — I’m not a fan of the word ‘kink’. I hear it and see it all the time… …..”You’re so kinky!” …..”WOW, that’s kinky.” …..”I’m into kink.” …..”You do BDSM? Oh…...
View ArticleSex: Afraid to Talk About Being Different
This Friday, I’ll be on the road again. Off for a week-end training retreat. Serious work involved but a huge step for me professionally – this is a first leg of professional training required to...
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